Preschool Causes Controversy By Banning Term ‘Best Friends’

Georgetown, Mass — I never had no one that I could count on, I’ve been let down so many times I was tired of hurtin’, so tired of searchin’ till you walked into my life.

If one preschool in Massachusetts had its way, Tim McGraw may have never been allowed to pen those lyrics about his best friend. Freddy Mercury of the famous band Queen either, when he spoke of his best friend saying;

“Ooh you’re the best friend that I ever had
I’ve been with you such a long time.
You’re my sunshine and I want you to know
that my feelings are true,
I really love you.
Oh you’re my best friend.”

No more singing about or referring to others as your best friends because in this preschool, there are no more best friends.

In a report from Fox25 Boston, Christine Hartwell said she is outraged after a teacher at Pentucket Workshop Preschool told her four-year-old daughter she couldn’t call one of her classmates her “best friend.”

Hartwell said she first learned of the ban after her daughter Julia came home from school one day acting differently. Julia told her mother she was upset because her teacher told her she couldn’t call one of her classmates her “best friend.”

Hartwell and her husband went to the director at Pentuket Workshop to find out more about this policy, which she said is not spelled out in the school handbook.

The preschool sent a letter to the Hartwell family in response to the issue, stating they’ve done research on the pros and cons of using the term “best friend,” and that they’ll continue to discourage children from using it in group settings.

The Director’s letter says, in part:

“It has been our experience (which spans decades) that the use of the term ‘best friend,’ even when used in a loving way, can lead other children to feel excluded […] which can ultimately lead to the formation of ‘cliques’ and ‘outsiders,'”

Hartwell said not only do best friends allow kids to feel more secure at school, but that she’s also pulling Julia from the preschool to find a new one where her daughter can still call someone her best friend.

“I want her to be able to express her thoughts and feelings in a healthy way, as children should,” said Hartwell. Hartwell said her daughter is now hesitant to call anyone her best friend anymore.




The school said they have no comment on this issue.


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