America, The Judgmental – A Look At Profiling In The Land Where No One Is Free

A few week’s ago I wrote an article in response to some of the national dialogue regarding race and the buzzwords of the hour, racism and equality. Those and other words like ‘profiling’ are certainly words not new to us. But they have been rather blurred over time. 

The article was titled, “A black lives matter white privilege story as told by a dumb middle class white guy” and in the article I spoke of a personal life experience which spanned the first two decades of my life. 

As expected, there were comments but because of the nature of the story, the comments were few and those made were not the typical dialogue being shared between people within the conversation of the day.

In response, the article I wrote is merely trying to tell of a more harmonious interaction between multiple lifestyles, in multiple environments, incomes and with multi-racial people.  The dumb white guy aspect of the article is to water down any impression that I am suggesting I am anyone who is any more important than you are.

I am not.

There’s just an awful lot of very generalized conversation being said out there, but nothing really specific as to people’s lives. I wanted to offer one.  

In other words, a different true story.

When reading the comments from the article and even those from the sea of other articles written out there, I hear essentially what comes down to a racial profiling argument. People picking on, mocking or singling out someone based solely on one’s color. Certainly the topic of the equality aspect delves into other aspects of humanity, which we’ll get to. 

With that said, in a lot of cases the examples or general references people are commenting about are not racial at all.

From what I’ve read, the argument (and the anger) appear to mainly come in the form of police interaction and in cases of people carrying about in the general public. For example, walking into a store as a black person versus waling into a store as a white person.

Another example I read was of a transgender who said she/he walked into a restaurant and felt like they were getting dirty looks.

I personally haven’t read about someone not getting a job, not being able to enroll in school, order a steak, drink a beer, sign up for the new program, go to the park, attend school, enjoy a play, watch a symphony, drive a car, ride the bus or any story where based on color alone they couldn’t, or were prevented in doing something. 

The transgender said they felt uncomfortable, they didn’t say the restaurant wouldn’t serve them or let them in the door. 

Merely looking at you in an odd or even negative way or even you ‘thinking’, that someone else is ‘thinking’, that because you are black you are going to rob them isn’t quite enough to claim mass racial profiling on a national epidemic scale. Certainly not at such the hostile levels as we are experiencing today. 

In other words, a dirty look isn’t racial profiling.

While we’re here though, let’s also address police brutality and its relationship to the word racism or equality as well.

I am well aware, as I’m sure you are too, of police brutality cases. No one condones a police officer beating the crap out of (or killing) anyone of any race, gender, sex, etc…, period. While there are obvious examples of where police have crossed the line with people of all colors, the police also do not represent the entirety of a culture of people.

In other words, just because you may feel police on the whole are out to get the black guy, (or whomever) it doesn’t represent an entire population of a country even if it were true. Police brutality doesn’t equal ‘mass citizen racism’ on an epidemic scale.

The real reality is and the unspoken truth is that, this type of profiling happens to white people too. 

It happens to whites with tattoos who walk into a store, white guys with long hair, whites with earrings, whites with gauges, (those big holes in their ears), white girls with nose rings, whites wearing a black leather coat, whites who ride Harley Davidson motorcycles and white people in rock bands.

It happens to white women, whites who live in trailer parks, it happened to the greasers who rolled up their cigarettes in their arm sleeves in the 40’s and 50’s and it happened to the first white girl to ever color her hair blue. 

It happens to white high school kids driving around in their parents (or their own) car on a joyride with 3 of their white buddies too.  Police (and us) are suspicious of everyone.

When it comes to the police though, it’s their job to be suspicious. That’s what they get paid for and all of the above mentioned ‘types of people’ have been suspiciously looked at, pulled over, arrested, not given a job, opportunity and I’m sure have been shot at and killed somewhere in this country as well.

But let’s take the white example a little further.

White people are involved in many things that the average black person wouldn’t touch if you paid them. Like for example, black people don’t go to Alice Cooper concerts, Marilyn Manson shows and black people don’t follow bands like Limp Bizkit, Motley Crue and Slayer.  There’s no group of black people out there like those crazy white people.  People act like there’s just one kind of white person and that’s it.

The biggest difference in white racial profiling as compared to black though is white people look vastly different. White people are judged and racially profiled for hundreds of different reasons, not just one. White people are not all the preppy, perfectly well spoken and presentable visions of happy privileged people some have in their heads.

Think Marilyn Manson fans aren’t scary looking or call attention to the police? 

What if a Marilyn Manson fan walked into a store? What about a white kid wearing a Metallica or a Slayer t-shirt? Public Enemy t-shirt? I wonder how many Elvis or Beatles concerts white kids were harassed by police at. Any idea how many hippies were harassed by police?  One Aspen, Colorado restaurant owner even placed a sign in his window saying “No Beatniks Allowed” to keep those particular freaky white people out.

What about a white kid in a college town? Think the police aren’t pulling over cars full of white kids in college towns? I mean really, why would police ever possibly pull over 4 white college kids driving around in a college town.

What about an emo person dressed in all black with their skin bleached white walking into a store? That’s a white person too. It’s just another style of white person and there are thousands of styles of them. There are no black people who go out of their way to intentionally make their skin look darker and paint their eyebrows and lips black, (and then wear all black clothes).

There also aren’t the black metal heads, the black emo people, the group of blacks who color their hair blue, the black long haired bikers, or those blacks with tattoos, (yes black people have them, but tattoos really POP on a white person). 

Certainly there are just as many varied types of interests of black people as well but the point is, black people don’t “stand out” like that.  It even happens to middle aged white men with a pony tale. 

You’ve seem them. 

Those white guys sportin’ a pony tale that so elegantly accents their bald spot? People look funny at them too and they get pulled over by the police as well. There’s no black people who look like those white people. 

Any one of those examples of white people may be more apt to not get certain jobs, opportunities or be subjected to unfair racial and cultural profiling, including being pulled over by the police. A white cop might just think that crazy looking white dude with a pony tale, smoking a cigarette driving down the road is up to something, or that emo teen, and it might catch the officers eye. 

It’s possible a black cop could see the white dude with a pony tale, or emo teen driving down the road and it might catch their eye too.

The biggest difference of our time is white people don’t run to Channel 12 News down the street and report it. They don’t say “hey, I was discriminated against” because I have a pony tale, my hair was blue, I had a Metallica t-shirt on or I was driving around with 3 other white dudes when in fact, that could very well be the initial thing, reason or suspicion that caught the police officer’s, (store owner, person in the street’s) eye. 

Oh look, it’s one of “those” white people. 

However, if a car of 4 black teens, (even middle aged black people) get pulled over, the reason they got pulled over will most often be blamed, by them, on their skin color. Black people more times than not, will associate the reason they got pulled over on their skin color, rather than a police officer being normally suspicious of 4 black teens driving around in a car. And police don’t have the advantage of being able to see that there’s one of those blue haired, long haired, tatted up biker, pony tale emo black people in the car.

On the flip side, black people don’t have the advantage of having any other thing to point the finger at, (other than any actual crime committed of course). They can’t rationalize “oh, it’s because I’m one of “those” black people and that’s why I got pulled over I bet”.  It’s just assumed to solely be due to their color because there is never any other apparent ‘suspicious reason’ in their mind that may have brought about the act they feel is against them.

In other words, in large part you can’t tell from a distance, or even up close in some instances, a suspicious looking black person as easy as you can a white person and remember, one of a police officer’s main job responsibilities relies on suspicion.

A real life example, my daughter and son were out past curfew one night a number of years ago when they were young. They were merely on their bikes coming home from a friends house. A police officer spotted them, asked them to stop but my son apparently didn’t stop fast enough and the officer physically tackled him off of his bike. Slammed him to the ground. They then handcuffed both my son and daughter.

Handcuffed them.

My son was only 12, my daughter only 13. The police proceeded to drill them with questions about why they were out, while they stood there handcuffed. My children said it was a very scary, intimidating experience and said they felt extremely attacked. Two young kids, just on their way home on their bikes and what clearly was an assumption they were up to no good.  My white kids were profiled by the police, as could be said, tackled and handcuffed. I don’t know how tackling and handcuffing a 12 and 13 year old could ever possibly seem appropriate to anyone.

That same situation with two black kids and the situation’s intensity, tackling the kid, handcuffing them and odds are it would have been taken as being due to the kids skin color. I can’t imagine a black person reading this right now, who if honest, wouldn’t tend to agree with that if a white police officer tackled your 12 year old son.  Black people will call police out on situations like that for racial discrimination, whereas white people just let it go.

That same story with black kids however would have been another ‘statistic’ of how black people are racially profiled and you know what — everyone would believe it too.  Think that story wouldn’t have went viral? 

Do you think my white children were racially profiled? Or maybe the dumb white guy just get ‘lucky’ again with another real life example, that happens to only apply to him.

Lucky my children and I are so privileged I guess.

There is an inherent natural fact that those around you, influence you too. For example, I have seen with my own eyes (and as a parent), that your reaction to certain situations often determines your child’s (and others) reactions.

For example, your child falls down.

A parent can usually tell if their child is legitimately in pain, versus if they just fell down and ‘hurt their pride’, if you understand the saying. They’re not actually hurt, but the shock of them falling surprised them. One could argue, even embarrassed them. To a five year old, that could be devastating.

But I have seen the varied reactions in parents.

The parent who says, “oh no Johnny, are you okay, are you hurt, oh my god my baby” and reacts in an afraid, fearful manner, will 9 times out of 10 result in their child crying, perhaps even screaming over them simply falling down.

However, the parent that says “oops, you fell down, you’ll be okay Johnny, come here and let me take a look”, will find the complete opposite reaction from the child. Their child will sense that it’s okay, things like that happen and that they are alright. No pain, no emergency, no crying, no screaming.

We’re the parents of the world.

We keep telling all these children and all these other people that virtually anytime they fall down, (get a bad look, get pulled over, hear a remark from someone) that they, by our reaction, should be crying and overreacting about the situation.

Like in the above example, no one was physically hurt, no one was denied a meal, a restroom, a seat on the bus, just their pride was hurt a little. But we’re saying to them, overreact.

Are there any examples of how a child was ever benefited by their parent overreacting to them falling down, and not actually being hurt?

Probably not.

You also have to consider the very news itself, which is a point made in my previous articleTake your average local newspaper and look at the crime they report.

I’m not suggesting it’s a conspiracy but the majority of crime reported with a picture included, is of a black person. I’m also not suggesting in this article, that more back people commit crimes than white people or that they don’t.

What I’m suggesting to you is the cultural influence that type of imagery has over public perception. 

If you see in your daily newspaper the constant picture of a black person associated with crime, it’s going to jade the public view of that particular group of people. Wouldn’t matter who it was. It could be a Muslim terrorist who I don’t know, say flew two planes into a U.S. building.

I’ll just take a guess here, but I bet if the news constantly talked about those “Islamic terrorists” that people would start to think every Muslim, Iranian, Pakistani or Indian is a horrible person to be leery of too. (But of course, that’s just my own speculation.) 

Point is, replace the top story of the day with a biker, long hair, rocker, those blue haired people, an emo person, Muslim or one of those pony tale white dudes and pretty soon the public perception is going to be ‘all bikers’ must be trouble.

Watch out for those bikers” will be the silent story of the day.

With that said it shouldn’t be too hard to see then why all those other stereotypes of blue hairs, bikers, emo’s, rockers and terrorists came about anyway. And yes, even blacks. Their faces too have made the crime news headlines and boy have they ever made the sensational, over saturated news commentary too.

Are all bikers bad people? No of course not, not at all but they sure do have a reputation don’t they. 

Have people ever been unfairly treated solely based on their color or race or how they look, of course they have. We all know that. I’ve been judged and treated badly and looked at negatively by people all my life here and there. 

As a 12 and 13 year old kid I used to even run secret tests on people, solely based on my appearance and I would measure people’s reactions. I tested a large wide range of people too.  Same person inside, multiple reactions. I might write a story about that one day too. 

This thought of equality has been on my brain since I was a child. (Remember, I lived next to 2 black families in the upper middle class neighborhood and my white friends came from the section 8 projects.) 

I was even profiled, as you call it, for being a “Yankee” once. In fact, so much so my apartment was broken into and completely ransacked when I lived in the south.  And not ‘Florida south’ where white people go, Atlanta, Georgia south where a whole lot of black people live. It was a crazy experience, and why?

Because I was a Yankee. True story.

There cannot be a single difference in being attacked simply because you came ‘from the north’, versus being attacked simply because ‘you were black’. I was attacked because ‘my white people’ helped ‘your black people’. Just think about that one for a while. They might have well just said I came from Planet Z and had cooties. What’s the difference. 

It’s a hopeless situation because you can’t rationalize with that mindset. You’re just ‘from the north’, a “Yankee’ an ’emo’ end of discussion and you are not liked, period. There is nothing fair, equal or amicable there and that twilight zone of a belief system can be hostile.

Most of us, if we sit and actually think about it, (some don’t have to think too hard) have all be victims of this against us, and many out there have played the perpetrator too. It’s probably not too far of a reach to suggest that we have all been unfairly judgmental about someone else at a time or two in our life too. 

But the national dialog isn’t bringing people together is it. It’s merely driving everyone apart. It, like the very definition of what racial profiling is, is racially profiling people. Both of us. 

It’s saying black people hate white people and white people hate blacks and instead of discussing the culture of profiling against all people, we like to single groups out when in reality, everyone is a victim.

No one wants to hear the story of the white and black middle class people living near the white and black section 8 people. No one wants to hear that we get along, that Southern people (emo’s, bikers, long hairs, blue haired people, whites or blacks) are actually extremely hospitable, friendly and welcoming, they want to hear that we fight. They’re telling black people that whitey is out to get them and turning around and telling white people that blacky is out to get them.

We’re being used against each other (by a white owned media) and it’s the minority report, not the majority though.

The majority of people’s lives run along in a harmonious fashion and people of all race, color and creed can, and do by the hundreds of millions freely walk and go wherever they would like without any problem whatsoever. I would be willing to wager that your life, while no perhaps not perfect or easy, is one of them. 

Opportunity awaits.

But the biggest secret is — you have to learn, then act. If you’re walking around with no skills at all, no knowledge about how to do anything, you’re on the bottom of the pile. Education and all the things that you know are your golden ticket in this life. 

You don’t hear those stories though. 

People like you perhaps, me and so many others out there that don’t fit the stereotype the television is saying about either of us. I don’t hate black people. I’ve never treated anyone badly because of any makeup in their look, color, race, geographic location, poverty level, religious belief, etc… 

But I bet now because of this dialogue, on the wrong street or in the wrong store, I too might be racially profiled as being one of “those” white guys. Just another white privileged guy who’s ‘probably’ racist and treats black people badly. 

Like you I would wager, nothing could be further from the truth. 

But they (someone) wants me to think the same about you. That you’re just a dirty black person who wants to rob me. It’s the news of the day. Are they right? Are you that type of black person? Because I would bet you’re not. 

The national media has a responsibility in my opinion and it isn’t to drive people apart.  There are tens of thousands and many more stories like mine of people living, breathing, succeeding, helping and working together in our world.  But so much of the national media agenda is to just over saturate everyone with shocking news that drives us apart. Everything, every day is falling apart on the national news. 

Every day, every second, it’s turmoil.

Three decades ago though and even to this day I witnessed a harmonious example of multiple (not perfect) lives together and since that time there are black Mayors, senators, congressmen, police officers, CEO’s, movie stars, doctors, engineers, astronauts and we even elected a black president. Hell, even OJ was acquitted. White supremacy? We just had a black president of the United States of America. Not only but in case you didn’t notice, he didn’t get shot. You clearly don’t understand white people. 

But now 30 years later all you guys (the world) are trying telling me we hate each other again. Here we are 35+ years later after a black president, a woman running for president, a gay, transgender and a clown going pee in my bathroom and you’re trying to convince me “whitey” rules the world. That whitey needs to take a knee. In some circles you make it sound worse than it was when I was a child in the 70’s, with some of the dialog out there.

Except this time it isn’t Rosa Parks or MLK telling me how bad it is, like it was in my day. It isn’t the “whites or straight people only sign” on the news either. It’s professional football players living the American dream. It’s Rosa Parks still, except the story has changed.

In this story it wasn’t that Rosa was even “allowed” to take a seat.  There was no allowing her, she just took a seat like a normal person would on the bus and this time, she sat next next to white people who all got along with each other. She even had a bankroll.

In this story, Rosa didn’t get arrested, she just took a knee in front of the bus, (apparently in defiance of the bus system because the system isn’t equal for everyone) but then of course she just hopped right back on the bus and drove off the same way she came.

It was at that moment, the nation cried racism but of course, for only one group of people.

I have no problem with an equality dialogue and no, it doesn’t have to be as bad as it was ‘back in the day’ to warrant a discussion or attention, but have we really come so far in that kind of progress that this is the real and true representation of the correct dialog of our day? Whitey’s out to get blacky again huh.

Any possibility we just might be overreacting a bit? Led down a false narrative?

Not even a little?

Like maybe we fell down but we’re not actually hurt?  Or we all fell down and we’re all kind of hurting maybe?? We’re not perfect. White people have a lot to clean off their porch but so do black people.  So let’s talk about that a little.

In my experience, there’s a certain level of a provoking nature to black people. Like for example, what’s with the whole walking slow in front of my car in the street thing? What’s that all about.

Black people will make you all but stop your car in the middle of the street (not at a crosswalk) if they’re crossing it. It’s almost as if you want to test us, just to see if we’re going to do something or say something to you. White people don’t do that. We’re not out looking for a fight.

Black people seem to be, more often than not, looking for one, looking for some confrontation. Like you haven’t quite stopped looking over your shoulder yet. As if you’re still mad and you still want to be mad.

Black people also, in my opinion, haven’t as a whole reached the place where they (as a group) see everything around them as an opportunity. Life isn’t viewed as “what can I build today, what can I dream of, what can I act on and what can I accomplish”. 

Whereas white people are always trying to come up with some new invention, business idea, new product and they’re always working on something in their basement or garage. White people always have some project. 

When you walk into a white person’s house, it’s usually, “hey, let me show you what I’ve been doing in the garage”. Whether it ever amounts to anything is another article for another day but the average white person is always working on something. The outlook between the two is different.

One sees opportunity, the other hasn’t quite as a whole yet seen the light at the end of the tunnel.

The average white person isn’t racist though, they’re selfish, scheming, opinionated, egotistical full of themselves plastic people in some cases and white people are very judgmental of others. I could very well get shot by a black person but if I did, my bet would be he’d shoot me in the face, whereas I could get shot by a white person too but if I had to guess, the white person would shoot me in the back.

A white woman too is the only woman I know who will lie, make up false allegations and do everything in her power to prevent a good, loving father from seeing his children. I’ve seen it happen hundreds of times. Black women don’t do that kind of stuff.

White people are typically the serial killers of the world too. (Yay for white people.)

For some reason it’s always you, the freaky white guy who rapes and kills blonde people with blue eyes, or 9 year old boys with brown hair, (or kills the president). Black people have their issues, but they’re not psychotic like white people are. There aren’t many black serial killers and no black person I can find has ever killed a president of the United States.

In my experience, once you can get past the (oh no it’s a white guy he’s out to get me stage, which will be harder now thanks to the current dialogue) black men and women are far more real, straightforward and will just tell you like it is to your face. I’ve always had great respect for that. The average white person isn’t like that.

It’s funny too because in my experience the ones who are like that are the whites with tattoos, the whites with long hair, whites with earrings,  gauges, whites wearing a black leather coat, whites who ride Harley Davidson motorcycles, emo white people and white people in rock bands with blue hair. I’d probably trust a biker over a guy in a suit and I would actually probably rather enjoy what the girl with blue hair has to say. I bet her story encompasses all people.

Like black people, once you can get past the (oh no they’re going to judge me because I’m an emo biker with tattoos and blue hair) white men and women are just as real, straightforward and will tell you like it is too. I have found that people who come from struggle on any side, are usually far more authentic than those who haven’t as well. I’ll trust a poor person over a rich person. Sure, both may steal from me but they will do so for entirely different reasons.

The average white person also like’s to attach themselves to a cause. It makes them feel good. I would be willing to bet a lot of white people who have jumped on the ‘white people take a knee’ bandwagon don’t have the first clue what’s it’s like to live in housing, be poor and some have probably never stepped foot in a black family’s home for any length of time in their lives.

They’ve probably never been picked on, ridiculed or treated unfairly either.

A lot of white people fight causes because they just go with the flow. (Same reason they don’t do anything if they’re stopped by the police, like say, if their children ever got tackled and handcuffed by the police.) White people will give a dollar to a starving child in Etheopia they “saw on TV” or help out a cancer victim at a pancake breakfast, and out of the next breath make fun of the lady with the wig at church, or the guy with bad teeth who lives down the street.

That’s the ‘plastic part’ of white people I don’t like.

It’s harmless, it’s just more chameleon, changes colors with the wind and doesn’t really have a stance on anything. They’re always rooting for whoever they perceive to be the winning team, White people talk a good equality game from inside a bubble. Those white people aren’t helping the situation. Black people looking for a fight aren’t either.

The other aspect I see wrong with this entire racial argument is what about mixed people? Are they racially profiled too and if so, how do you know if it’s the black side or the white side being discriminated against? We’re long since past the days where white people just blurt out, “hey you’re a black person”!

It’s all feelings, and emotion and senses and looks people get now (and some incidents with police). I lived during blatant racism. I lived when the word negro was still used. I don’t see blatant racism happening these days. No one would dare say negro today, as no one should anyway. We’ve made monumental progress in my lifetime.

Where’s that dialogue?

Does black lives matter include the white part of racially mixed people? Is the white part of racially mixed people racist? How exactly does the race argument fit them? If they were ever pulled over by the police, would it be because they were black or because they were white?

Additionally, if it’s truly a color issue, meaning ‘white people’ are the problem then are we including Canada, Ukraine, Moldova or Iceland white people too? What about Poland, Finland, Argentina or Australian white people? Take a knee Australia?  Take a knee you Pollock?

I mean really, how many Pollock’s does it take to take a knee anyway. And look at that, a racial discriminatory remark against an entire people, who are white. There it is again.

I don’t think anyone needs to take a knee, I think we all need to step down from the pedestal we’re on. It’s that high and mighty pedestal of yours and my opinions. Sure, some of you will disagree with some of what is said here but the main point I’m making is, perhaps we should just realize that we’re all judgmental, we’re all profiled against, we’re all critical and we’re all looking for everything we can to stand our ground and point the finger elsewhere, as we scream for attention for ourselves, or our ‘people’.

Maybe we should all just look in the mirror at ourselves. I mean, which would you rather win anyway…

  1. The argument?
  2. Or a more harmonious life between you and I?

At some point you and I, (not the TV, Police and you and I), just you and I need to hang out together ourselves and talk. The TV, the government and the national news media doesn’t always have to join us you know. It doesn’t always have to be part of our conversations.

Between you and me anyway, I think they’re out to get the both of us.

Call me naive, stupid, say I’m uneducated or just plain don’t know what the “real world” is like out there, I just know that I have found in my own life, from big and small cities all throughout the country too, there are far more things to delight in with one another than there has ever been to argue over. I am also not currently involved in a racial argument or any profiling incident with anyone. I live pretty peacefully among the races despite national news, and my few life experiences to the contrary too.

While I haven’t found a life absent of problems or things to complain about, I have found a life full of people unable to accept responsibility for their part in the problems. I have found an awful lot of finger pointers and self righteous accusers from all sides of the isle. I have never seen one problem big or small get solved though when that is the only dialog.

Additionally, while we seem to be a people screaming for equality, we are at the same time fiercely promoting our gay, trans, black or white ‘unique’ identity.  It’s almost not even an ‘equality war’ as much as it is an ‘identity war’. We form groups of people that stand on their differences, while we scream to be treated equal.

Too often our fight for acceptance can be the very knife that keeps dividing the pie.

You can’t expect to be a part of the group, if you are constantly reminding everyone how ‘different’ you are from the group.  The boy didn’t get accepted into the girls ‘secret back yard club’ because of his constant pushing of all his differences, he was let in because of all the things he had in common with the girls.

Once he was let into the ‘girl’s back yard club’ though, there were no differences any longer. He was just like one of the girls. Sure, there was still talk and comparisons made of each others differences, and even sometimes mutual laughter about them, but those differences were delighted in, freely and openly discussed, not looked down on and they were certainly not criticized.

That’s equality. But where’s that dialogue?

I know it’s hard to separate yourself from the big world media, and if you watch the news long enough you’ll end up feeling that the entire nation is falling apart. But you have to understand we don’t live in a sea of millions of people. We live in a sea of 20-50 people.

In our day to day life those are the only relationships we need to worry about or can even control. You don’t interact with millions, you interact with a handful that you meet and see on a daily basis.

The very essence of a relationship starts with a dialogue of the things you have in common with one another and through that genuine process, most differences become that which the other finds delight in.

How are those relationships in your life? Not the relationships “as seen on TV” but your own, that you can speak of in your own personal life.

  • Do you spend enough time with that one white person who works in purchasing?
  • Have you have ever asked the black co-worker in the office if she’d like to go have a coffee somewhere?
  • Get together ever with the girl everyone picks on?

What’s life like in your circle? Is it really filled with racism, horrible white people and whites or blacks that are all out to get you?

I invite you to defy the stereotype. Not just one stereotype though, all of them. That means fat people, kids with braces, glasses, a limp, the shy kid, a Pollock, white person, a black person, the kid with no friends, the kid with a Public Enemy t-shirt on and yes, even those white dudes with a pony tale. 

I invite you to join with me. 

Come up to me in the street, let’s have a conversation and let’s agree together to be friends. Or just find that person you wouldn’t normally say hi too, and start a conversation. We have a choice here anyway, don’t we?

We can fight, argue and hate each other because the TV keeps telling us to do so, or we can together show each other (and the world) a different story. If we don’t, this doesn’t end well.

For this is a story of how two good people like you and I, who know nothing about the other at all, find themselves with a rifle in hand on a battle field faced with a decision to take the others life. What’s happening right now is the wolf in sheep’s clothing.  We are all being controlled by the media, (owned by white people) and everything their hand touches ends in turmoil, devastation, fighting and destruction.

I remember words once spoken where a man spoke of America as “a beautiful symphony of brotherhood”. Where little black boys and black girls will be able to join hands with little white boys and white girls as sisters and brothers. He had a dreamA dream deeply rooted in the American dream, as he once stated.

There is no leader of the day speaking these words.

In closing, it wouldn’t be complete if I didn’t take a moment to recognize our past. You can’t deny where we’ve come from, nor can we deny the human injustices done against a people, especially black people. There’s nothing to ignore about that.

While I can’t personally do anything to ever change that, I can recognize it and I can extend my hand to you as a genuine friend right now. Maybe if you and I can just start there, perhaps more news that reflects this “beautiful symphony of brotherhood” that I have seen with my own eyes and witnessed in my own life, can be told.

I invite you to defy the stereotype being placed on you and me.  I invite you to join with me and let’s tell a different story.

I’m willing if you are.



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