Freeport, Illinois – I am often surprised at how many people do not understand the natural laws of our universe. What surprises me even more are the organizations that do not understand these natural laws, especially those that give to others.
Often organizations succeed at helping others yet fail when it comes to teaching those they help to pay it forward themselves. These natural laws that could forever help those in need, are often left completely out of the equation. In a way its like the old biblical adage, “if you catch a fish for a man, you’ve fed him for the day – if you teach him how to fish, you’ve fed him for life“.
The law of circulation states that all things in the universe are always flowing in circulation but at an ever expanding rate. In other words, what you give to one person, you will receive from a different source.
The human brain is wired for reciprocity—the need to give back after we receive.
Take this example:
A collaborative study done by researchers from four universities documented how bringing candy to a table after a meal influenced the value of tips that servers received. The results were astounding.
If servers gave a piece of candy with the bill, they got 3% higher tips. Interestingly, if they doubled the amount of candy, the tip didn’t double: it quadrupled.
Even more fascinating is if they brought one candy to the table with the bill, and then came back with an unexpected second piece of candy, tips skyrocketed to 23% higher.
Most people don’t even realize that most humans respond this way, but we do. This need to provide additional value when we receive additional value is reciprocity in a nutshell.
So, you don’t have to give with the expectation of receiving back from the same person you give to, (one of the laws is that you never should anyway) but give knowing that it will definitely come back to you multiplied from other sources. It works according to the law of cause and effect where the universe always mirrors back to you whatever you do.
Reciprocity is the need to give back in an equal manner to what we receive. For example, if someone smiles at you as you’re walking down the street, chances are you’ll probably smile back.
The answer lies in the evolution of the human brain. Our brains evolved to feel and experience this notion of reciprocity because it actually helped us survive.
Human beings are pack animals. We are stronger together than we are apart. For this reason, our brains evolved to help us avoid interacting with humans that were threatening, and to nurture relationships with those that were not. The best way for our brains to figure out how to nurture those advantageous relationships was in acting in an equal manner to how we were being treated.
That’s the evolution of reciprocity.
This positive reciprocal behavior helped the human species not only survive, but thrive. As a result, reciprocity became a fundamental phenomenon that got coded into the human brain.
Let’s look at another scenario.
How well do you do with compliments? It’s important to notice how you respond to compliments especially when they are sincere and valid. Do you downplay it, decline it or ignore it? Do you say something like “Oh it’s nothing.”
One of the easiest ways to cheat ourselves out of receiving is not accepting other people’s compliments about you. The reason why it is important to accept compliments is that it allows the other person to give something to us. If you wanted to give a gift, wouldn’t you want someone to receive your gift?
Accept something good when it is offered to you. If someone offers you a gift, take the gift and just say, “thank you.” If you are in a restaurant and someone wants to pay the bill, don’t argue, just say, “thank you” and allow them to give to you.
Give up your beliefs about accepting gifts from others. Forget about feeling vulnerable or owing them something. Don’t decline it because when you refuse a gift from someone, you are not only blocking the flow of abundance in your life, but you are also blocking the flow of abundance in the giver’s life.
Remember, there can’t be a giver without a receiver.
Positive circulation is when things increase as a result. Negative circulation is when things diminish as a result. In other words, it is the belief that what you hold on to will keep slipping away until there is nothing left. You can never escape the law of circulation. If you try to stop the circulation of things, it will still circulate but in a negative manner.
It will be circulated through unexpected expenses such as paying for repairs and replacements of things that are damaged, stolen or lost. Look at areas in your life where you are prevented from keeping your money or being forced to spend it.
We are all stewards of universal resources. The rule? Give to where your giving would do the most good so that it would flourish.
- Give to someone or some place that contributes to your personal growth or happiness.
- Give to where you receive spiritual nourishment from.
- Give to people who inspire you, help you and love you.
- Give to where you receive the most joy.
- Give to where it makes you most happy to give.
You should give most of all to where you are personally involved in.
Positive circulation increases the value of things because it is beneficial to both giver and receiver. Negative circulation decrease the value of things because it is detrimental to one or both parties. Positive circulation occurs when what is received is combined and transformed into something better and given away again. Negative circulation occurs when what is received cannot or isn’t used but is released in a state that is worse than before. An example is the money making scams of life.
It is better to give in smaller amounts but more frequently than to give in large amounts but less frequently. It is consistency of giving and not magnitude that has the effect. When you give frequently, you are in constant flow and there is no stagnation. When you give only large amounts now and then, you will be in stagnation during periods where you are not giving. Think about constant circulation to keep the water in a tank fresh and clear, compared to changing it completely only now and then.
Whenever you give something to others, you should also allow them to give something back to you if they desire to. If they have allowed you the favor of expressing abundance towards them, you should also allow them the favor of expressing abundance towards you. It is perfectly alright to set up an exchange of value by having others pay for what you have to offer. It is also a way of allowing circulation to take place that will lead to the increase of your own wealth and the wealth of the world.
According to the law of exchange, there is sowing and there is reaping. The law does not expect you to give without receiving in return. Giving without expectation of receiving is not natural. You should always expect something from your giving. It could be as simple as expecting your gift to be of benefit to someone, or to be valued and appreciated, or to allow others to give something back that will increase your joy and happiness.
When you give without honoring your worth, that is not giving, that is discarding. Loving others without loving self depletes you. All actions of love and giving should put you in a position of increased abundance, so that you have even more to give.
They key is to help people because you want to help. As long as you help because it’s right, good, proper, because you should, because you don’t know how to say no, because you want thanks, gratitude, friendship, whatever it is, as long as you help for any reason other than because you want to help – you will be disappointed.
We can’t give that which we don’t have. It is a joyful thing to have so that we can share. When you help people by sacrificing yourself to be of service to others, you will feel resentful for it and end up paying a much higher price. That is because correct giving must be a circulation and not just an outflow.
When you give, you need to receive something in return in order to enable yourself to continue to give more. Your can only give in proportion with your ability to receive.
Ironically enough, the best givers are the best receivers.
How to apply this in your own life?
If you want joy, give joy to others. If you want love, give love; attention, give appreciation. If you seek affluence, seek to help others become materially affluent.
This principle applies to all bundles of energy, including corporations, individuals, families, and nations.
If you want to be blessed, learn to silently bless others. Our bodies, when reduced to their essence, become bundles of energy and data. We are consciousness. Life is like a dance choreographed by the laws and principles of life.
To understand how to dance, we must hear the music, we must respond to the ebb and flow found in the cycles of nature.
We activate this flow by giving what we wish to receive.